The above emoticon says it all.
I asked the girl i so adored since last year today to be my gf...
Her answer was 'no'. I want this thread to be a guide to all the
guys here as not to make the same mistakes as me. I thought the
courtship went flawlessly but I was wrong. I overlooked a very
important factor.
Reasons?
She said that she still din noe me well enuff even though we knew
each other for close to a year. As in she din noe me well enough as
a person to trust me. To her, I was always this mysterious guy whom
she knew was caring and nice to her but she did not really find out
my traits, good or bad thru our conversations. I was to blame. I
was afraid of being labelled as a pest, those who chatted up gals
every other day. So I made our conversations, online or real life,
infrequent. I thought this would keep the feeling of mystery and
that she would not be bored easily... Sometimes being too careful
can kill bigger plans. She said that I wld hav been considered if i
had made talked to her more.
Which brings into the picture another factor. There is another guy
who also liked her since last year but he basically crapped to her
alot. So he was in the game from the very start whereas I was
always the mysterious shadow disappearing and reappearing in her
life. And what really hurt was the fact that she told me jus noe
that she had decided to giv tat guy a chance. In fact, they would
be attached real soon.
I dun noe... Lost and forlorn I am... I should steer clear of her
faculty for a while, I dun noe how I will feel seeing her hold
hands with another guy. Its a terrible feeling.
But I asked her twice and that was it. I dun push. I am not a pushy
guy. On no account does a gentleman force a gal to reply the way he
wants. If I dun get it, so be it. It will hurt for me, but better
me hurt than a friendship destroyed.
And to guys who think that simply because a gal has been accepting
your gifts and smiles to you and such... Pls dun be mistaken...
Alll gals are different... Each has her unique way of expressing
her feelings. To her, my tokens were jus gifts of friendship. To
think that a supposedly open minded person like me failed to read
this. Ah, how one sided love blinds and conjures up beautiful
mirages.
Yeah basically everything was perfect jus now. The beautiful
evening sky, the brightly lit CBD area, the Esplanade waterfront...
But all that was lost when her reply came.
Waht will I do? Well I will steer clear of relationships for a
while, I need time to heal and feel human again, and most
importantly I need to revaluate myself and figure out what went
wrong. I will be a better person before I step into the love arena
again.
Lat but not least, I would like to thank my friends who have been
such a great help to me over the past few months...
1). FeowFeow - For ur mature and sensible advice, u hav always
played the role of a big sister. I love ur gift ideas and thanks
for recommending so many nice restaurants and cafes to me.
2). Mao x 2 - Especially last year, thanks for giving me advice
thru PM.
3). Elektra - For always listening to my grouses. I miss the good
old days of crapping
Plus PinkyGal76, LarrenV2003, DRX, Smudgey, Starpuppy, NekoRin and
others... U guys are great... I love u ppl =)
In real life, I would like to thank Biquan, Melissa, Jookai,
Jieying, Elektra, Rebecca, Aimei, Calvin, Ben and last but not
least my jiu-gui buddy Jingyang
with all ur support and advices and ideas. Rest assured that I
appreciate all of all of ur advice and help.
